Coming to Grips With One’s Own Mortality
As another birthday comes and goes for me, I am reminded once again just how fast time flies.
At this point, I struggle with conflicting things to focus my thoughts on.
On the one hand:
- My kids are at the age where they want less and less to do with me.
- My joints ache a lot more often, especially after faking my age and playing basketball with younger guys.
- My father died at age 58 and that age seems like it isn’t all that far away for me.
- Most of my friends have lost at least one parent and some of my friends even have medical conditions of their own.
I can’t help but wonder when my time will be up.
On the other hand:
- I’ve been fortunate to live a wonderful, healthy life with a great family and good old friends.
- I’m fortunate to be in a rewarding career that I love and plan on doing indefinitely.
- I’m fortunate that I’m still able to play competitive basketball and chase around the golf ball.
- Setting up my own business close to home has helped me achieve a pretty “balanced life.”
- I have reason to believe the rest of my life should be filled with great joy.
I often tell clients they need to balance their savings with their priorities of living for today and planning for tomorrow. The toughest thing is that we don’t know how much time we have left. That’s probably the cause for the “mid-life crisis”. I always thought I would live to 100, and I joke that I might need to live that long in order to shoot my age in a round of golf. As I get older, I still have my doubts as I hear about people dying young from things like cancer.
With doubts of my longevity creeping in, I decided to do a 180 and live a little more for the “now” and put my frugal ways on the back burner. For me, that means:
- replacing my 4 year old laptop
- getting two top-of-the line fishing rod and reels
- replacing my 12 year old massive 60” family room TV
- and possibly getting the iPhone 6 when it comes out this fall
- could a sports car be next……..
I’m curious what others have done when they started thinking about their mortality. Do you have a bucket list?
There is no doubt that the most precious thing in life is TIME.